Let’s talk about romance. By far the most important thing you need to turn your relationship into a great romance is desire. You have to want romance in order to achieve it. It won’t just happen by itself though, it requires effort.
The most common excuse among couples for letting romance escape their relationship is time. It’s incredibly hard to find the time and energy to even contemplate any notion of romance, you might say. But think back for a moment to the early stages of your relationship. What was so different then? Didn’t you have a job then? Didn’t you have other commitments then?
Of course you did, but maybe not to the extent that you do now. However, you still had a schedule to keep, whether it was attending college, studying, playing sports, keeping a job and so on. But somehow you found the time to ‘woo’ your partner. You found time to date. Why? Because you wanted to. You made time for it and you did it.
Why were those times together so special? They were special because that specific amount of time you set aside and reserved for one reason: romance. You gave 100% of your attention to each other, right? That’s what made it special.
Now that you’re sure you want romance, go out there and do something about it.
Think about the last time you and your partner went out to dinner. What did you discuss? Maybe it was money, problems at work, or the kids. Therein lies the problem. You have to learn to create romantic situations that focus 100% on each other. Save the serious talk for another time, and focus on the next most important thing you need to turn your relationship into a romance: priority. Make it a priority to spend quality, focused time with your partner. These special times should be set aside just for the two of you to enjoy each others’ company, and nothing else.
Now that we have established that creating a romance requires desire, and making it a priority, the next thing we need is a plan. It can be as simple as scheduling one evening per week as “date night,” or promising to spend “x” amount of time doing something romantic for your partner each week. Use your imagination & be creative! The most important thing is to make a plan and then stick to it…no matter what.