We all enjoy the pleasurable moments that come with sex but there are many of us which in some way feel that they have not experienced that “peek” sensation others talk about when it concerns sexual intercourse. Bear in mind that there are also many sexually active couples who lose their spark and experience similar downturns in enthusiasm in the bedroom.
One of the most common blunders that most couples make that makes sex boring is that the constant expectation for every time to be unbelievably mind-blowing, which is too unrealistic. Sex cannot be like this every time. When sex becomes almost routine-like and there is no scope for creativity and new techniques, then it becomes boring and feels like a chore.
Also, there is the fact that a lot of people have such high expectations from their partners in the bedroom and when the passion and feelings they anticipate are not met, then feelings of disappointment, anxiety and anger start to creep in. This is especially true for some couples who are having sex for the first time, or are trying for the first time with a new partner. If you have experienced ‘wild’ sex (and all the more power to you if you have), you can’t expect it be to wild every single time. Sex has its cycles and tempos. There’s slow, passionate sex and on the flip side you have the fired up quickies as a result of spur of the moment urges.
The whole act of sex is not just about the intercourse. You have your foreplay (which is quite underrated in our opinion!), oral sex and manual stimulation with the use of the hand or the fingers. You should try mixing this up to bring some excitement into your normal sexual style.
There is nothing wrong in watching an adult video to help get you the mood, in fact, we recommend it – but don’t make the mistake that many couples make in relying on this too much, instead of each other, for arousal. Remember that not everything in porn is actually satisfying in bed so don’t get carried away in following it. These are sexual fantasies being portrayed by actors for you. Use them as a tool if you wish, not a replacement.
Sex can be more exciting if partners try to explore each other and discover what really gives pleasure to the other. Try not to compare your sexual experiences in the past with your current one. Every individual has his or her own approach to giving and receiving pleasure. Be creative and you’ll have fun.